After asking you which articles you would like to see this week on the Blog. I’ve had feedback about the exams and more specifically about getting up after failing his exams. I thought it was interesting because it’s true that you make a big deal out of preparing your exams, but when they don’t pass, there’s no one to motivate you again.
So today, I decided to relieve your guilt by giving you 6 points that I think are important to apply after missing something in his life, even though I think there is no failure, just lessons to learn.
Understanding your mistakes
The first thing to put in place after receiving its results is not to feel guilty. By guilt, I mean wilfully harming myself as if it would solve the problem. Of course, it is not a question of putting aside his anger and/or sadness which are important to rise. On the contrary, you just have to sit down for a moment and reason, wondering what the hell made you fail.
To understand one’s mistakes is already a step towards more wisdom and benevolence. So take the time to figure out why you have failed sometimes just a little nothing but that makes all the difference. Failure happens even to the elite ones, it is sometimes a matter of luck and/or events. So don’t hurt yourself too much, learning also goes through that, although it’s hard to take.
Being caring with yourself
As I suggested in the previous point, being kind will be beneficial to you. Are you saying that this can happen to everyone: a stroke of fatigue, a cold, personal problems, that have never experienced this in their lifetime?
Failure is not inevitable, yes, you missed today but you can do better tomorrow so don’t waste your time whining about your fate. Be kind to yourself, listen to yourself, do what relaxes you the course of a moment to rejuvenate yourself, have a good time with your loved ones and you will see that this is just a fact not an indeterminate state. So smile, laugh, but don’t give up, you’re about to succeed.
Remembering your successes
Often when we fail, we tend to think it’s always been that way. That we are good at nothing and that we will never succeed anyway. But you know what? That’s not true! Before you got to where you are today, you came a long way, you fell and then you got up. You have failed and then succeeded! Thus, you also have your share of successes that mark your path.
That’s why, rather than focusing on your failures, focus on your successes, try to remember them and enjoy this feeling. You are capable of it, you just need a good dose of optimism, but don’t worry it will come back with time. The more you seek to be benevolent and positive, the more you find the strength within you to rise. So do not doubt, believe in your potential, you are capable of doing miracles.
Find another method of learning
Once you have regained some peace of mind, you can look for another method of working that will allow you to do better for the next time. You know, there are lots of ways to pass your exams, try various learning methods to see which one suits you best. You can ask your teachers, your friends, your classmates, there must be a method that will be more suitable for you.
To tell you the truth, it took me almost a year to find my way of working at the university. I’ve tried lots of them and I’ve made my choice so well that today I’m more efficient than before. Also, remember, one way of working is personal, copying what others do may not help you. You can draw inspiration from it but always adapt the methods to your personality, it will be much easier to learn.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself
On the second last point, I wanted to talk to you about pressure. I know that some people do better under pressure, I’m one of them. However, the pressure can also make you lose foot, certainly, it is good to feel some anger towards yourself when one of our objectives has not been successful. However, putting pressure on one’s stomach to get sore and to have declining morale is not necessarily the best solution. So, to avoid putting too much pressure on yourself and trying to let go, remember my previous points: be caring with yourself, understand your mistakes and remember your successes. The more you remember these three points, the less stress there will be for action.
Do better next time
Once the previous 5 points are well assimilated by your mind, relax and take a deep breath. Find that serenity of your beginnings and get back to work. Tell yourself that the next few times will be better and do everything in your power to make them happen.